Did your relationship break down and hurt you? Did it bring you a lot of pain, disappointment and loneliness. You are probably feeling all those feelings right now.
That unhappy relationship has stayed in your mind and is etched there permanently. Many people can remember the emotional hurt from failed relationships for the rest of their lives. It hurts them and they remember things and negative memories circulate round their mind and they just can't seem to get rid of them.
However, for some people old memories look more remote. Despite this, the negative emotional impacts from the past relationship still leaves a person unable to create the stable relationship they desire.
People try to numb the void and pain after a failed relationship. They distract themselves with a multitude of other things like comfort eating, partying, sex with strangers, taking drugs, smoking cigarettes- any addiction that is going.
They exist in a state of denial by telling themselves what happened with their ex-partner doesn't exist. They kid themselves that they are ready for the future and there is a bright relationship.
Being in denial can be very deceptive and annoying. It makes you think that you are OK, but in fact sooner or later you will know that you have a problem when it comes to the forefront of your mind.
Trying to distract yourself for a while works but never seems to the result which you want. Any new situation with a partner in a new relationship in completely new circumstances can trigger mind-consciousness which refreshes those painful memories which are still so raw in your memory.
If you have just gone through a recent break-up then the hurt is still there for you. You want to start a new chapter in your life and many people do say that suffering can lead a new chapter in your life.
It is rather frustrating and discouraging for sufferers instead of being empowering and motivating. People associate confidence with happiness and this is true for the most part.
However, some people think that you failed with your relationship and now feel inadequate and powerless which can exacerbate past pain and make you feel a bit down. You can make positive changes though and you just need to find out how you can start a new chapter in your life.
It is possible to remove painful memories from your mind. In a similar manner to clearing your old computer data, you can flush negative memories from your system and get your energy returned to your Authentic Self.
You need to make some real positive changes in your life so that you can realize the potential that you have and ensure that you have a better life than you had in the past.
When you take this hard, but necessary step old memories which are related to failed and unhappy relationships will feel like they never happened to you. New doors will be opened to a better life and so that you can have a fulfilling relationship.
Iga Wisniewska is a certified Mind Resonance Process ® Level 3 Life Coach (MRP). After hundred hours of her own personal work she wants to help and share her knowledge with other people on the planet.
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